"For a brief insane moment, I was glad about whatever had happened that night." Page 39
So far in the novel, "The Kite Runner", Amir has been undergoing a constant struggle with himself about acceptance from his father. Baba always imagined that Amir would be just like him when he was a kid: playing soccer, getting into scraps, being strong, and standing up for himself. Baba consults Rahim Kahn about his concern for Amir and Rahim assures him he is fine. But to Baba, this isn't what he wanted. The only way Baba knows Amir is his son is because he witnessed the delivery. Once Amir has heard this, everything changes.
In this novel, you can definitely make the connection of paternal bonding. Throughout my life, it has always been significant to me to have a solid foundation with my parents. To be in their "good books" has many benefits but the largest of them would be pride. Pride is a double edged sword meaning I want my parents to be proud but I also want to be proud of myself and of my actions. However, the father-son bond is much stronger than a mother-son relation for one reason only; we have simliar intersts. Going into the woods and going fishing for example is one of my favourite past times and so is his. My dad and I not only enjoy similar outdoor activites but we also enjoy the same genre of music where as my mother and I do not. It is much easier to have a strong bond with people that have similar interests rather than people that are like "oil and water" in comparision.
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Of course paternal bonding is very important but it is not always a good thing. Striving to make your parents happy at all cost while driving yourself near insanity just to get their approval. I really liked your metaphore about the double edged sword but I personally beileve it is not accurate. Making your parents proud is more like shooting your first high-powerd rifle. You get that joy, and manliness feeling, of firing such a powerful thing but you will also recive that shoulder pain of not expecting such a sudden hitting kick-back.
David Addison.
It makes me laugh a bit when I see that we wrote pretty much the exact same thing.
One question I would have for go-tee is, why wouldn't paretal bonding be important. What David is talking about here is the fact that he has a stong belief in bonding with parents, to be in their "good books." My question is, why wouldn't a child growing up look for a role model in someone like his/her parents? His parents are people that they are always around, it's only natural for someone to be connected to the people they are growing up with. I see ridiculos amounts of similarites between my father and myself, and even if it's things that I never thought would happen, they have.
Personally I don't see a problem, and I don't see where that metaphorical "shoulder pain" comes from.
10/10 David
The relationship between Amir and Baba strikes the strings of emotion for any good father's son. It is good to be blessed with a father who shares your interests, and it is usually the father that does. Despite this, there is always a possibility that the mother is the one that shares the most similarities with the son, or even, most unfortunately, neither parent. The relationship between Baba and Amir was hanging on a thread... Amir was dangerously close to this unfortunate situation.
Nice insight,
Bryan
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